"A good man out of the good treasure of his heart bringeth forth that which is good;
and an evil man out of the evil treasure of his heart bringeth forth that which is evil:
for of the abundance of the heart his mouth speaketh." Luke 6:45.
Unless you say what’s on your mind, others won’t know what you’re thinking or how you’re feeling. This I know from personal experience, and perhaps you do too. However, sometimes, it’s wise and best that some things be left unspoken, especially if those things can bring injury to the heart of the hearer.
It’s interesting how as a wife and mother we’re often able to the detect and decipher what the needs of our family members are, but when the tables are turned, it seems like no one knows exactly how to attend to us and take care of our needs.
I do realize that some of us are more vocal than others and that our personality types have a lot to do with the way we relate to others and how they relate to us. But we shouldn’t be bothered by the fact that we have to verbalize what we are thinking or feeling with those who are closest to us, especially when they genuinely don’t know what’s going on on the inside of us. Let’s ever be mindful that our spouses and children are not mind-readers and our willingness to be open will help to enhance communication between us and them.
If something bothers, annoys, or frustrates you, say so. If something hurts or brings you sadness, say so. If someone makes you feel like you’re not worth much, say something. If you’re feeling overwhelmed or tired of life as it is, say so. It’s not fair for others to be free to vent their frustrations about you to you while you keep the lid on and don’t vent at all. Bottling up these and any other negative emotions is simply a recipe for disaster in your health and relationships and is undoubtedly a precursor to a poorer quality of life.
As a caveat, if for whatever reason you don’t feel safe enough to vent in the environment that you’re a part of, then know for sure that if you aren’t able to find the support needed from those in your inner circle, you can always take every emotion you’re feeling to our loving Heavenly Father. He cares and has promised to give you His sweet peace. So don’t be intimidated about expressing yourself. Be free to speak your mind and allow love to always be your motivation.
Written By: Shaina Menns
